Thirty and Faith - Being Content in this Season

It is so hard in society today to not want to keep up with the person next to us. We want to keep up with their clothes, accomplishments, achievements, and milestones. Except we dont want to keep up with their heartaches, hurts, and struggles. We want all the good blessing but none of the hard work or heartache. I will tell you the specific struggle I face is looking at all my friends with their beautiful families and marriages and wondering when that will become my blessing. For several years I let this consume me and eat away at the joy and happiness I was supposed to be having in that season.

I can remember one specific day where I broke down into an ugly cry for almost a whole day. It wasnt pretty but it was real, it was something very real that I had to deal with. I was so consumed with how unfair it was that there were people who I believed didn't deserved to be married or have kids who did, and they were taking them for granted. It was painful to watch and I thought it was so unfair that I was a good person and it wasnt me getting the marriage proposal or kids. And then as if he were standing in my bedroom God said to me, "Fairness ended in the Garden, now get up and do as I've called you!" WOW, thanks God that was harsh, but in that moment, so what I needed!

And He was right... several months later I was given a specific call to start the process of moving across the country. I was being called to pick up and leave everything, friends, family, job, and house - to leave the place I had called home for 32+ years - and move to California. God has used that experience to grow me into the woman he has needed to fulfill a specific mission here! But we need to be partners with God in creating those experiences and that means being CONTENT in the season he has placed us in for now. If I had dragged my feet in his calling, I would have missed all the doors he opened along the way. Its almost like a divine street of green lights - if i would have sped up or slowed down at the wrong moment I would have missed all of Gods green lights and would have had to wait for the next opportunity.

We are all called to endure different seasons in our lives for different reasons. Things will not happen on our timetable, they happen on Gods timeline. Believe it our not God has great plans that are so specific that only you can fulfill! How awesome and scary is that! That God has so woven me into his plans that there are things only I can accomplish in His kingdom! But dear woman if we are constantly worried about when, where, and how the next season will arrive and what it will bring, we miss the mission and purpose of this season.  When we are all in with God he allows us to be tested and tried so that we will be strengthened in him. I can tell you that some of the hardest seasons of my life have prepared me for the next season, either of blessing or trail.

Philippians 4:13 says "I can do all things through Him who gives me strength." and yes that versus is SO TRUE, but read the versus leading up to it "... for I have learned to be to CONTENT whatever the circumstances and that no matter what I have or do not have, hungry or fed, living in plenty or want, the secret of being CONTENT, is that I can do all things through HIM" (Philippians 4:11-13, paraphrased). YES, I can do all things but only when I am CONTENT in the season God has put me in for his purpose! He will provide all I need for that season in preparation for the next, all I have to do is be obedient and trust him.

Pause & Journal:  What season has God placed you in that you are either trying to move out of or into? Read Psalm 40:1 "I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry" Do you feel God has heard your cries, why or why not? What are some things you are struggling with in this season? Do you take these struggles to God through prayer and petition?

Prayer: Father, I thank you for the season that you have me in now. I thank you that you have a plan so enormous that as creation but yet so detailed that you have a specific plan for me. Thank you Father for knowing me and having a part for me. Lord, I pray that you would help me to be content in this season you have me in and that you would use this season to prepare me for the next. I pray that you would strengthen me when I want to give up and encourage me on days when I succeed. Help to do what you have planned for me to bring glory to your name, Lord! Amen

 

 

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Happy Fourth of July

I hope everyone is enjoying their Fourth of July 🇺🇸💥 Take time to celebrate with your family and friends, but remember to take time and reflect on today. We should continue to fight for what we believe - our values, our principles, our freedoms, and against persecution and oppression! 

Spending the fourth in the place that started the Revolution, on the banks of the Charles River, Boston, MA

Spending the fourth in the place that started the Revolution, on the banks of the Charles River, Boston, MA

getting ready for fireworks 💥    As we celebrate Independence Day let's remember it's a time to celebrate and remember the true freedom to not to do as we please, but the liberty to do as we ought. We are free to shine and share the love of Jesus!   

getting ready for fireworks 💥 

 

As we celebrate Independence Day let's remember it's a time to celebrate and remember the true freedom to not to do as we please, but the liberty to do as we ought. We are free to shine and share the love of Jesus!   

 “Blessed is the nation whose God is the LORD, the people he chose for his inheritance.”  Psalm‬ ‭33:12‬ ‭NIV‬‬

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Thirty and Fashion - Update Your Style

One of the great things about turning 30 is the ability to flip and switch and reinvent yourself ... and your CLOSET! Turning 30 was a chance, and excuse, to switch up my style without justification. There's also the added bonus that you get to buy some new clothes. The important thing in updating your new style is being true to yourself and your personality while also finding clothing that fits your age and body type! 

One way that I took to updating my style was using Pinterest! This let me explore styles and see how other people out the pieces together. I started by searching for something I already had in my closet, like blue dress pants. I then pinned outfits that I liked that I thought were professional, appropriate, modest, and reasonable for me to do without stylist. I would look at the pieces they paired together and would look through my closet to find the same or similar pairings. Then I started to put together outfits I pinned with items I already had in my closet. The great thing about Pinterest is that now it starts to recommend things based on previous pins. So I can keep updating my look as I go and can search for outfits before I before I buy something. When I go shopping I don't just grabbing anything and everything off the shelves, I now have a plan for what I need to add to my closet. I can also explore what trends were best for my lifestyle and the brand I wanted to portray. If an outfit that I wore didn't get quite the reaction that I was looking for or didn't look right for me, I would just unpin the outfit from my lookbook and find another pairing.

I also go through my closet and get rid of outdated, old, tattered, and wrong size clothes; while I kept the staple pieces I already had in my closet. Every time I add something new to my closet I get rid of something in the same category. So if I buy a pair of new shoes I need to remove a pair that are worn, broken, or unused; and the same things goes with shirts, pants, and YES BRAS!!! This helps your closet from getting crowded and unused. Its also important to be realistic about your size. I know its hard to come to terms with but keeping those "when i lose 20lbs jeans" or outfits are just taking up space for the new things that will make you look stunning now. Also, lets be honest when you do lose that 20lbs do you want to go back to jeans you had 10yrs ago, or would you rather celebrate with a pair of new, better fitting jeans!

Some of you might be saying, "well i just don't have the fashion eye that you do and I end up looking like a peacock!" It took me a couple years for my fashion eyes to come into focus. I had to train myself to look at fashion differently, as not just clothes to put on but as a way to communicate my personality, mood, and presence. I started to look at fashion as a way to make a statement about myself when I entered a room, was I going to enter PUT TOGETHER or thrown together. I wanted my style, both professional and causal, to speak for me even if I couldn't say anything. The most important part of changing up my fashion style doing it for myself. I had to get out of the mindset of just throwing on jeans and t-shirt or yoga pants, and really take pride in how I looked. I'm not dressed to the 9s everyday but I do make an effort to be intentional everyday. 

I find that I like Lauren Conrad from Kohls to help add signature pieces. She provides updated styles and trends for my age and body type. I also like Banana Republic and Old Navy pants for their professional look and fit. If you have the time and energy going to places like Nordstrom Rack, Marshalls, and TJ Max you can get some great top of the line pieces, but you have to be willing to sort through all the racks. Step up your Target game and stop just buying clearance, their Merona line is great professional, they have comfy t-shirts and camis, and they also have really great shoes. There are also some great boutiques through Instagram like Dottie Couture and Magnolia that have trendy outfits for us 30-somethings.  Now when I go shopping I have a plan of things I'm looking for, I will wait for sales and discounts, and I know what makes me look and feel good.

If you don't have that fashion eye there are great personal styling options now through Stitchfix.com, wantable.com and trunkclub.com offer great options for both men and women!

Here are a couple of my looks:  

Thirty and Fitness - Regular Exercise Habit

I grew up being very active playing sports. I was a gymnast, cheerleader, played softball, basketball, and even dabbled in bowling. I was always doing something active. When I got to college I now had the freedom to manage and coordinate my schedule - when I would eat, sleep, and play. I stayed relatively active with dance and softball, but I did not maintain my regular workout routines. I also discovered that I was now in control of what I could eat whenever I wanted. Let's just say there were several late night pizza and taco runs, not to mention I turned 21 my sophomore year. So no matter how fit I thought I was, my lifestyle was not conducive to keeping my weight at bay. 

After college I went straight into graduate school for two years and then into a full-time professional career. Neither of those experiences left much room for regular exercise. I was also constantly surrounded by more college food, and the kicker this time is that it was mostly free! So add up 50-60 hour work weeks and free pizza and burgers, and you get an extra 30lbs! wow!  

I have mentioned, and will continue to mention that turning 30 is a milestone. Whether it's a milestone that we create or society creates for us, it's a marker moment in our timeline. For me, turning 30 pushed me to make some changes, particularly to my lifestyle. One lifestyle change was learning to say no to food I didn't need or want. I also decided that it was time to start investing in my health and fitness. This meant I had to make the decision for me and not to please or impress others. Here are a few of the practical steps I took to lose 40lbs and keep it off:

1. Make the decision FOR YOU that you are ready to engage in a healthy lifestyle. Set a realistic goal for yourself and then start working towards that goal  

2. invest in products to help you reach your goal. I bought in a FitBit because I needed to know how many calories I was burning daily with just regular activity. I also started using the MyFitnessPal food tracker app to monitor not just WHAT I was eating but also HOW MUCH of it I was eating. Portion control is a big hurdle that I'll address in a future post

3. Be CONSISTENT. Track Daily. Exercise Daily. Smash Goals. Repeat!

4. Set up a challenge and reward for yourself. I challenged myself to run a half marathon and i needed to work towards that goal. Once I finished that half marathon I rewarded myself with a gift to mark my accomplishment. I bought myself tervis tumbler that says 13.1 so every time I use it remember what I overcame and what I am working towards.  

5. Get an accountability partner or coach. I told people my goals and I let them into my fitness journey. My fiends, coworkers, and family could then support me at meals, during workouts, and on vacation to stay true to those health goals.  (I'll do regular fitness posts but you can check out my page at www.beachbodycoach.com/meganbottoms or @30flirtythrive for tips and workouts)

6. Remember it's a process and journey, Be realistic!! It took me 10 years to put on that weight, it was not going to take me 10 days to get it off. I had to set realistic goals: first I started by walking, then running, the yoga, then weights. It's a constant journey that I will never be done with but I know it's a road I need to travel. 

Pause & Journal: Give yourself an honest health appraisal, how satisfied are you with your overall health including diet and exercise? Are you willing to make lifestyle changes? What are two health goals you have for yourself? What are three lifestyle changes you need to make? Who is someone that you trust to keep you faithful to your health journey?

Pray: ‬ ‭Lord, you have given us these lives as a means to glorify and honor you. Please help me to take care of my body, mind, and spirit and to have the discipline to fill it with good and healthy things. I ask that you give me the strength to push through the physical and mental difficulties. Put someone in my life who will help to encourage and support me. Amen

“Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.”
— 3 John‬ ‭1:2
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Turning the Big 3-0!!

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No, its not the start to a new year, it’s the countdown to turning the BIG 3-0!

For me, turning 30 was both a mixture of excitement and dread. I was nervous because it is the age that would officially end my twenties and I was no longer going to be looked at as young. I guess 30 seems to be the age to officially enter adulthood, I was feeling old. There were also the feelings of dread. I was turning 30 and I have never been married and no prospect of getting married, I don't have kids, and feel like my biological clock is spinning wildly! Everywhere I turned my friends were living out the life I expected I to have this age. There was pressure from my family and friends upon turning 30. Pressure to find someone nice and settle down. To focus in on my career goals and find a job that would take care of me and build my 401K. I had spent most of my twenties building my career and I was satisfied in my job but not excited about it anymore. There was pressure to think about having children. (My mom actually told she would buy me a sperm Popsicle if that’s what I wanted for my birthday.)

Some how 30 became about how many milestones I checked off my to-do listen than another year to celebrate my existence. It was no longer about living life, but living life according to pre-determined check boxes. Check boxes that that others told me I needed to have marked by this arbitrary date, but also checkboxes I had set out for myself. The actual day of my 30th birthday was not very exciting either. On my actual birthday I had to work an event for work that started at 6am. Later in the day some friends gathered for a tailgate and some drinks, but the actual day was anticlimactic. There were no balloons, favors, or cake, it was just another day. In fact, it was so regular that I had to check my calendar to see what I actually did that day because I couldn’t remember.

But I also had feelings of excitement about turning 30. I was starting a new chapter in my life. Instead of looking at this birthday as an end to my 20’s, I started looking at it as the beginning of my 30s. Turning 30 was a chance to change old habits and start new habits. To get rid of people, issues, and things that were not healthy or encouraging. Its almost refreshing that I don’t feel 30! I actually feel better, and look better, than I did in my twenties. In fact I have had people mistake me for someone in their mid-twenties and they never believe when they say I’m 30!

For some turning 30 is a scary idea, more responsibility and pressure to do “adult” things like get married, have children, and buy a house. For some turning 30 is exciting and a fresh start! But the most important thing is to remember that you can make it whatever you want, just get out there and live! I thought my time of being wild and free was over, but little did I know it was just beginning. I hope you will continue to read my blog about how I have embraced being 30 and have resolved to make it a memorable decade!